When my teens were little kids I was an Army wife. I lived far away from my family in Oklahoma. My then husband deployed to Iraq just after my oldest turned three and my youngest was six months. After three months of training and not getting to see each other he left on a plane and landed in the desert. Our communication was super limited. Maybe one call a week, emails were far between, and I was left to my own life it felt like. I started to get down on myself, depressed and downright angry that he left me with these two kids to do all the parenting. (I still feel the same way today when my husband goes to work!)
One day I realized I wasn’t taking care of myself. I was not getting enough sleep. My time wasn’t my own. Then I had an idea. What if I got ready every day? Would that change my behaviors?
I started small. First I set an alarm to wake me up before my kids naturally woke up. By setting that early alarm I was able to have time to shower and get ready.